By Amber Conley
As a mother/business owner/wife (of a trade business owner)/woman, Amber Conley knows the challenges and frustrations of trying to balance a simple 24 hour day. “I sometimes find myself daydreaming of a life where everything is broken into time segments. Where every responsibility has a time slot and nothing else intrudes on that,” she says of her days.
But we all know life is not that simple. So how does she balance everything? “Very Carefully” She responds with a laugh.
She does it with a smile and a mind set of good enough is perfect, instead of perfect is good enough. Here are some of things she does to help her through her hectic days.
1. Prioritize the things that matter most.
If you put off the things that you truly care about, no matter how much you get done, at the end of the day you still feel like something was left out. Being able to spend time with your husband and children is the upside to a stay at home mom. You might find that by doing this, too, you actually get more done because the family is less demanding when you do need to concentrate on your business.
2. Structure your days, but be careful not to count the minutes.
It is very important to keep business hours, but you were attracted to this venture because it allows you to earn money and take care of your family at the same time. So give yourself a realistic and flexible schedule.
3. Don’t make a list of 5, 10 or 20 things to do.
Do make a list of things that need to get done that day, but the trick is, don’t review it at the end of the day. Simply sit down, write a list of everything you did accomplish and then the next day write your to do list again. This shows you how much you are accomplishing which is probably more than you are giving yourself credit for.
4. When you go to the bathroom, or you are doing the dishes, let hot water run over your hands for as long as you want.
“This is my personal favorite.” It is so relaxing, and this ten second break becomes a huge boost to your energy. It is so simple to find little things like this to spoil yourself through out the day with out feeling like you are spending too much time on yourself.
5. Know that good enough is perfect.
“I wore my self into the ground, literally, trying to be perfect, the perfect mom, the perfect wife, the perfect woman, the perfect business owner. Just reading that is exhausting.” When you stand back and really examine how realistic those goals are, and how GOOD you are at your life, you begin to feel good about yourself. And the better you feel, the better you will be able to accomplish what you need AND want to.
Amber Conley is a work-at-home-mom. She is dedicated to helping other work-at-home-moms succeed in their businesses, no matter what they are. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.